Whoa, sex

At church we are doing a sex series. It’s great, informative, a little uncomfortable at times, but for the most part, it’s great. More than about sex the act it’s been more about relationships and how sex comes in to play in the marriage relationship; like I said informative.

Last week something that came up was arguments, and how there is never a winner when it come to arguments. I argue to win, I think I always have, it’s the way we did it growing up. However I see how it’s not productive in relationships.

In the car on the way home from church last week Joe and I were talking and I mentioned that I like to win, he told me that he’d seen that, then he told me that when I’m trying to make a point my tone can come across as demeaning. I can see how this is how I can come across, and I want to change it.

I’ve been thinking about this all week and have been trying to see it in my daily life. However I’m having a hard time, I need to pray about it more. Today I asked Joe to point it out when I do it. I know that this could be a bit of a slippery slope but I feel like it’s what I need, for now.

Growing and relationships, I’m finding, can be hard, but so worth it.